You are under pressure because your toddler is still in diapers and will not be allowed to start day care unless he is potty trained.

All the other moms seem to have figured it out, so why not you? Follow our simple tips on what to do…

Your 7 step plan

1. Use your instincts.

You will know when they are ready. Watch for signs: talking about a wet diaper, telling her she wants to go to the bathroom, or removing her diapers.

2. Relax.

If you’re tense about going to the bathroom, your toddler will be, too. Pick a week that is good for you to make this a priority.

3. Really go for it.

Throw away diapers. Challenge yourself to keep your nerves – and them in the pants.

4. Make a decision

Decide if you want to use a potty or go directly to a trainer toilet seat. If you use a urinal, put it in the bathroom, not in the TV room.

5. Accidents will happen.

Don’t be negative and make a fuss. This is all new to them too.

6. Good habits are learned, not taught.

Let him go to the bathroom with you and sit him on the potty or toilet at times when he usually fills his diaper.

7. Excite Them

Use a potty chart for when they go potty, and letting them choose ‘big boy pants’ or ‘girl pants’ will motivate them to stay dry.

Differences between boys and girls.

Experts say that it usually takes longer for children to learn to use the toilet. Kirsty Ballantyne, a former nanny and now nursery teacher working in Edinburgh, says that in her experience girls learn to use the potty faster than boys: “Girls start showing interest at 2 years old, while boys kids I cared for started around 3 years old. -31/2 years old.’ 3-31/2 years old.’