Making your ex boyfriend jealous is a sure way to get his attention. After you’ve been dumped, your ex is still watching you to see what kind of reaction you’re having. In fact, he expects to see you upset: not because he wants to hurt you, but because he wants to know that you still love him. The days or weeks after the breakup are the best time to plant the seeds of jealousy in your ex’s head, and there are a number of ways you can do this.
However, before you do anything, you should carefully consider your options. There’s a big difference between making your ex-boyfriend feel pangs of jealousy and playing mind games designed to bring him back to you. Getting back together through the use of manipulation will lead to a rocky relationship, which means that you will only end up breaking up again. To get your boyfriend back, you will first have to make your ex want you back. This requires using just enough ‘good’ jealousy to get the job done, while avoiding ‘bad’ jealousy by not overdoing it.
One of the best ways to make your ex jealous? Casting off the shackles of your break up like it meant nothing to you. When your boyfriend dumps you, don’t fight the breakup. Instead, agree and accept it right away. The next day let him hang out with friends, smiling and laughing and acting like nothing happened. Don’t call, email, or text your ex. Ignore any contact with your ex-boyfriend. If you’re near him by default, don’t even look in his direction.
By moving on with your life, you are raising serious questions about your decision to end your relationship. Suddenly he’s alone and you’re surrounded by people you’re having fun with. Instead of seeing you at home, depressed and crying over the breakup… he watches you act like you’ve suddenly been released. He’ll start to wonder how much you really cared for him, and he’ll realize that maybe he was the one depending on you (and not the other way around). By doing this, you’re not only making your ex boyfriend jealous, but you’re also wrecking his entire opinion of the breakup… and he might even surprise him and want you back right away, before you run off!
Another great way to build jealousy: flirting with another guy. However, you should be extremely cautious if you decide to do this. Playing silly games with your ex boyfriend could destroy any chance you have of getting back together. Mind games, mind games… these things are not cool. Guys are very anti-drama, and the more you get into this, the worse it will be even if you end up boyfriend and girlfriend again. It’s possible that your ex could resent you for what he perceives to be an indiscretion while the two of you were on a break.
That said, there’s nothing wrong with your ex seeing that you suddenly have a bit of competition. A good way to make your ex jealous is to go out with a group of friends, both guys and girls. This type of dynamic is a fun way to take your mind off the breakup and you can also interact with other guys. And the more people you involve, the better the chances your ex will find out. You can talk, laugh, flirt and have fun with other guys… after all, your ex broke up with you. He has no opinion on what you should be doing and no longer has control over you, but in the back of his mind he will be jealous of everything you are doing. No guy wants to see her ex dating or seeing another man, even after he’s broken up with her. And especially if your ex hasn’t moved on yet.
If you choose to use another guy to create jealousy with an ex-boyfriend, there are two fundamental rules to follow: First, never try it on any of your friends. Not only is it less likely to work, but you’re going to damage any future relationship you have with your boyfriend once you end up getting your ex back. And second, never let things go too far. Not if you want to go out with him again. If you are looking for a new relationship? Go for it. But if you’re still in love with your ex-boyfriend and still want him back in your life, you can’t do anything that requires an explanation later. Think of the reverse scenario: if you don’t want him to do it to you, it’s probably forbidden.
