A root of bitterness can easily sprout in the marital relationship, since living so close to a person there are many opportunities to feel offended. If you are not careful, offenses and neglect can separate you from a meaningful relationship and frustrate the marital union. A person who is bitter can respond in a number of ways, from employing the cold-back treatment, to lashing out in anger, verbalizing profanity and obscenities, and at the point of emotional breakdown turning contemptuously to adultery to fully manifest his defiance.
Keeping a good attitude and mindset towards your spouse is a job. Such mental effort is not for the faint of heart. You have to be willing to fight for your marriage.
To sustain a loving and life-giving marriage, both of you must be sober and attentive to the seductions of the soul. Not only must you take care of your own heart, but you must also discern the traps and ties that can haunt your spouse when you are away from home.
The most important thing is to gladly and wholeheartedly attend to the emotional and physical needs of others to fill the tank of love of others and strengthen the union. Remember that people do not usually get out of a Rolls Royce to travel in a VW. Nor do spouses wander around looking for hamburgers when they are served filet mignon at home.
Therefore, serve yourselves and feed the needs of others so that others do not. Remind men if you don’t take your wives out on a date, someone else will. Ladies, if you don’t seduce your husband, rest assured that another woman will.
Men congratulate their wives and affirm their beauty and exceptional qualities. The more you affirm women, the more they open like a flower towards you.
Ladies, a man can be won over by caring for him from chest to knee. It is quite simple. Feed him and make love to him.
Divorce is not fun. I’ve been there and experienced it myself. I know. It helps to remember the painful consequences of infidelity before diving into sexual immorality.
Among the many reasons to be faithful to your spouse and not cheat on him are the following:
1. It can be dismembered, mutilated or killed. John Bobbit’s wife cut off his penis when he cheated on her. Others have had knives and guns used when they cheated on their spouses. The next time you cheat, remember that it could be your last, as death may be near.
2. The fear of being caught haunts the soul. Fear torments you and puts you in a continuous state of alert. Life on the run is not a way of life. In your patience, possess your soul and take advantage of your bodily appetites so that you are not enslaved by them. There are many who are emotional runaways who live life on the run in their own marriages. Secrecy and continually trying to hide every little clue and indiscretion is not a meaningful existence.
3. Adultery destroys not only your marriage, but also your children as they grow up without emotional stability and a firm family foundation. By committing yourself, you will not only curse yourself, but also your offspring. Is it really worth perpetuating the pain in your future and your posterity? I do not think so. Get a check-up and some counseling if you need to.
4. Adultery dishonors you and belittles you as a person. Suddenly your word no longer means anything. Therefore, you become incongruous and begin to doubt even yourself, realizing that you are double-minded and given to dishonesty. Remember that your word equals your value.
5. You reap what you sow. What comes around, turns. Do not be so self-absorbed as to think that you will not suffer a similar situation when your spouse finds out about your misconduct. Humans can be very vindictive and rarely hold back when they want to get even. A spouse who has turned evil can become an arch enemy when he turns against you, as he does not know how to take you where it hurts the most. Therefore, respect and defend your spouse so that you too receive the same in return.
You had enough confidence and certainty in that person to marry them. So why should she cheat on them and ignore all of their marriage history, fond memories, and the future they have together? Do not do it!
Marriage only improves over time as you endure and work through your differences, seek mutual understanding, prefer each other, and work cooperatively on your problems believing the best.
Your best days and your blessed days are ahead of you!
