What do you get when you pair two bulls in a pen? Lots of head butting! Most likely, a marriage in this situation is headed straight for the mud.

All of this means that couples need to pick themselves up from the mud, stop bumping into each other, and start trying harder in the reconnection department. Is your relationship not worth it?

Remember your thoughts spoken at the altar as you looked into your spouse’s eyes and vowed to commit to each other through thick and thin?

If you are feeling single or are no longer in a relationship, it is time to bring out that pre-marital energy and fully reconnect and bond with your spouse.

Unfortunately, today’s culture makes the domestic diva feel deprived and worthless. Consequently, more and more of these seemingly underprivileged women are jumping on the bandwagon and establishing careers, leaving husband and children to fend for themselves, leaving home duties and responsibilities neglected.

How can couples be united in marriage when there are needs and desires that are not being met? How can couples profess love for each other when they are so busy doing the selfish things that each other wants? Outside opportunities and trivial desires prevent couples from growing together in marriage.

For example, a wife may have her own career, friends, and schedule, which prevents the husband from wanting to get close to her, consequently, he has his own friends and sports games that he attends, leaving his wife to her own schedule. .

The husband in this scenario thinks that his wife no longer needs, loves, or wants him, and when problems come up, couples behave like two bulls, butting heads every chance they get.

Neither spouse gets involved with the other except to get on each other due to a lack of organization in the home. What chaos! The lack of organization in the home is a great cause of need and disruption in the home.

It is a natural instinct of a “real man” to want to be in charge of home and family, and to protect, love and care for his wife. But today many women feel that they don’t need this from a man and they rebel against it. This is very sad because it is taking away from the design that God intentionally planned for marriage.

What happens when God’s design is altered? It doesn’t work, plain and simple.

Two bulls in a corral will cause tremendous headbutts! No marriage can withstand the pressures of two bullies harassing each other. Nor can love be sustained when the bulls go their separate ways.

What can two bulls do in marriage?

First of all, remember the commitment you made to each other. Doesn’t that mean something to you? Isn’t it important to stay committed to what you started?

Many important issues outside of marriage also need a commitment to succeed. Commitments are like striving to achieve our goals. If we don’t strive to achieve the goals we set for ourselves in life, we probably won’t achieve them. We have to work towards our goals so that they come to light.

Marriage is the same way; couples must continue to strive to retain the love they once had in marriage. They have to work to keep the marriage built on the promise they made to their spouse at the beginning so that the marriage continues to glow in the dark.

Marriage is a never-ending journey.

When couples shut down and stop communicating is when they really lose touch with each other. The other communication problem I see a lot is couples not expressing their feelings properly.

Most of the time feelings get in the way and when an angry bull tries to communicate with another bull they head butt him, accusing, blaming and pointing fingers instead of talking. Those horns can play very bad.

This is emotional abuse in the third degree.

If we get angry and hostile, our spouse will shut down and the problems will never be resolved. Here we go again, back to square one.

When the problems are not solved? They are stored in mental capacities until a later date, when they can be used to justify the next heated discussion.

Bullfight!

Unresolved issues turn into resentment, which escalates into more head butting. Very soon, because of this, and by not knowing how to communicate properly, couples eventually learn to avoid problems that they believe could cause emotional outbursts.

They’ve finally decided that headbutting doesn’t work and shut down completely. They feel it is better to leave things as they are rather than turn on each other, which invariably causes more frustration, resentment, animosity, and hurt.

The bottom line is that if you want to feel married and loved again, learn to express your feelings appropriately without accusing or blaming. Try putting yourself in your spouse’s shoes for a change.

Try to put a little more effort into the marriage, like walking together, playing games, sharing a candlelight dinner, and whatever you enjoy. Try to include your spouse next time. Do it together!

And of course, allowing God’s wisdom and love to enter a marriage does wonders. Don’t let your marriage become a loveless stalemate. Stop being so stubborn and give yourself to each other out of love and commitment! God will be pleased that you did.

And remember, God’s intention for marriage is a bull and a cow in the pen together, not two bulls!