Three questions to help you get out of your own way!

Three questions to help you get out of your own way!

Albert Einstein said that the very definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

So what stands in your way to achieve more?

The answer is YOU!

Ask yourself these questions:

1. There are things in your life that you have no control over and there are things in your life that you have total control over. What do you focus most of your time and energy on?

2. You can let things happen or you can make things happen. What do you spend most of your time and energy on?

3. You cannot change the past or predict the future. You are only in control of NOW. Where do you spend most of your time and energy?

Let’s talk about CONTROL …

Chances are, like most people in our society, you spend too much time focusing on those things you have no control over (the weather, the stock market, other people, etc.). Do you want to change your life? Shift your focus. Start focusing on those things you have full control over (yourself, your attitude, your ability, your effectiveness … that is, YOU!).

We have much more control over our lives than we make ourselves believe. Get out of your own way and stop making excuses. You will never look back with regret!

Let’s talk about BEING PROACTIVE …

If you choose to focus on those things that you have no control over, you will inevitably live a reactive life. Then you will feel out of control, which perpetuates this vicious cycle. If you hear yourself saying things like “I don’t have the time / money / energy to do that …” or “I’ll do it ‘as soon as’ I get a raise / the car is paid / the kids move out / blah blah blah blah “you can be sure that YOU are getting in your way by holding a stop sign.

We all know that those excuses allow procrastination. ‘As soon as’ is filled with some other minutia before we make an effort to do something satisfying. Stop lying to yourself. If there is something you really want to do because it is of value, gain clarity and act or never expect it to happen.

Let’s talk about NOW …

We tend to live unconscious lives in our society. Most of the time, we don’t really pay attention to what we are doing. We got on the proverbial hamster wheel and started running. “We went through the motions.” Have you ever driven somewhere you’ve driven dozens of times before only to get there and find that you don’t remember driving there? Fascinating, huh? It’s scary, isn’t it? It is because our minds are elsewhere. We may be thinking of something a person said yesterday and we are trying to figure out “what did he mean by that?” (Sometimes we love to hit the back button over and over and over again!) Or maybe we’re thinking about what we’re going to wear to a party tonight or on a trip we have planned for next week. But, we rarely think about what is happening in front of our faces at that very moment.

Again, do you want to change your life? Change your focus! Spend a day “in the now.” Make a conscious effort to really focus on what you are doing as you do it. Your mind will wander … okay. Just bring it back and keep moving forward. After all, it’s not about how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up.

Life is not a dress fitting. Either you perform or you sit in the auditorium and watch others perform. Do it or don’t … just know why and then take responsibility for that decision.

After all, you have 100% control to do it.

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